Co-authored by the lovely Aussie based Korean expat Lucy
“This is the time of the year when we often think about other people rather than ourselves.
Gifting is one of my favourite things, this makes me feel so happy. I have had 5 summer Australian Christmases so far, and I must admit that I love this gift exchanging culture!
For the last 5 years, my boyfriend and I have celebrated Christmas and birthdays every year, which, even with only 2 people in this household, has meant we were able to fill the place pretty quick, because of getting lots of material presents. While they are all meaningful, it gets harder to maintain your home when there is too much stuff.”
This year I was inspired to give experiences and make gifts rather than going the traditional route.
“Why? A couple of years ago I received the gift a horse riding lesson, and it totally changed my perspective of gifting. Getting experience rather than materiel present? What a brilliant idea! It was like a light bulb moment for me. I must say that it was an unforgettable experience, and I fell in love with horse riding since then. The gift of horse riding for me, it will last forever…The gift of learning and experience can be a gift that will last a lifetime. “
From Natalie & Tip:
There’s real science and psychology behind this too:
“Experiences tend to make people happier.”
“Over the past decade, an abundance of psychology research has shown that experiences bring people more happiness than do possessions… Experiential purchases are more satisfying than material purchases…”
Some examples of gifts of experience:
- Classes / courses / workshops
- Something you make / bake – Lucy baked Focacia. Linda Lomelino is making diy edible gifts in jars. (above)
- Invite people round for a meal / gift a meal to those without
- Music / tickets to somewhere
- Pampering: Facial / massage / barber shop (Lucy reminds us not to forget that men like being pampered too!)
- Give back – make donations to favourite causes
- Give yourself time and space – like this to do list:
PS If you have already bought gifts, don’t despair! We know your family and friends will love them! We would love this to inspire you to having less stressful ‘giving’ seasons and focusing on what really matters to you and your families these holidays. And give yourselves that time and space to enjoy what matters to you. If the to do list is making you stressed, release yourself from your commitments to yourself and gift yourself permission to cross it out and do things that make you and others happy, that are fun. That give you a break.
Happy holiday season! x Natalie & Tip
Related articles: Apartment Diet: How to let go of gifts you don’t want to keep in 2 minutes / Readers Digest: Make Your Own Darn Gift / The Atlantic: The science behind Giving Experiences
What a brilliant idea! I def agree on experiences and memories having more weight than material things. One thing, they last longer in our hearts and mind! x
ps, I have to admit I have a long Holiday List, oops?!
pps, Awesome job, Lucy! I’m so proud of you. xx
Thank you so much for your comment Renee, I like the last thing that you said, they definitely will last longer in our hearts and mind! x
I have to say that giving material presents is getting harder and harder these days. It is a nightmare trying to please the ones that you love for birthdays, Christmas or specials days. Thanks to this article I have some many new ideas which I love. What about: “Give experiences, do it and take a picture of it”. If you take a picture of the experience, you will be remember that particular experience for the rest of your life, and it will be a memorable moment.
Thanks Lucy. Love your ideas. :)